We Are 100% Husbands
What is the current divorce rate in America?
It is frequently reported that the divorce rate in America is 50%. This data is not accurately correct, however, it is reasonably close to actual. The Americans for Divorce Reform estimates that “Probably, 40 or possibly even 50 percent of marriages will end in divorce if current trends continue.”, which is actually a projection. If we try to find answers to the reasons behind rise in divorce cases, the laws pertaining to divorce too are a cause behind, including many other contributing factors.
The divorce rate in America for first marriage, vs second or third marriage
50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second and 74% of third marriages end in divorce, according to Jennifer Baker of the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology in Springfield, Missouri.
See Reference http://www.divorcerate.org/ for more information.
To these challenges in marriage, we believe there is an answer but most people won’t or don’t like it. It’s love. Not the lustful, one night stand, sexual pursuit of selfish gratification that some “label love”. But it’s the unconditional kind of love that never changes, that always forgives, that expects the best and gives all and then gives some more. In short, its not that human love but that love that comes from God.
Some people think that a strong marriage is 50% to 50% where each partner gives half to make it work. However, we are striving to be husbands who give 100% to our God and our wives as we work day by day to make our marriages be the best they can be. Ephesians 5:25 commands husbands to die for our wives, not to be a half live zombie trying to eat her head if dinner isn’t done because we worked all day. We give all we have to our wives just as Christ gave all he had to us.
For those of you that may be saying, “Oh here we go. Those Christians again! Whatever!”, to you I apologize for the lack of love that you may have experienced from people who carry the title “Christian” but don’t posses that evidence of a true loved filled relationship with the God and Father of Love that expresses the life of a “Christian”. I don’t blame you if you doubt the Christian experience based on people that carry the “TITLE” but don’t live the “LIFE”. I would however ask that you please not discredit the Father based on some of His “special” kids. Have you ever met a sweet old lady, that would cook those hot fresh out of the oven chocolate cookies to give away and if you fell off your skateboard and started to cry would come outside and wipe your bruises. Then you met her kids and they were a bunch of crazy bone headed criminals but she loved them as if they did no wrong? Well that’s an example of God and some of His kids! He’s still good and loves you just as He loves some of His kids that aren’t really looking, acting or loving like Him. Just something to consider.
OK…back to the topic! We as men of God need to abide under His word and believe that as we “humble ourselves” to obey God’s Word, He will “lift us up” as only He can. The stance of giving 100% of all you have into your wife is a stance of giving or sowing into her and the “ground” of her spirit.
We’ve heard the saying, but it really holds true, “Whatever you give a woman, she will make greater. If you give her sperm, she will give you a baby. If you give her a house, she will give you a home. If you give her groceries, she will give you a meal. If you give her a smile, she’ll give you her heart. She multiplies and enlarges what is given to her. So if you give her crap, be prepared to receive a ton of s**t. ~Author Unknown”
So with that said, if you give a woman 100% of your love, she will return that love to you in 100 fold harvest format. She will make whatever you give her greater in proportion when she returns it to you. The problem then becomes, giving sincerely from a heart of unconditional love so you can receive a harvest of unconditional love. A lot of husbands give love with conditions and that’s why their wives return love with conditions. Don’t be mad at her if she’s returning to you what you gave to her. Every man is the farmer of his relationship, so the type of harvest you get is your responsibility. So if you don’t spend time in the garden of your wife planting good seeds, don’t be upset about the weeds that have grown up.
We here at 100% husbands don’t want to make excuses, past blame or ignore our faults, we want to develop into the kind of men that God can be proud of and that give our wives 100% of unconditional love. But we can’t give, what we don’t have, so go with us as we work on us so we can give to our wives. So we invite every man that is strong enough and wants it bad enough and is willing to not to make excuses but accept responsibility to join us.
If…he’s strong enough of course.
- Did you know that 33% of born again Christians have divorced? (marriagetroubles.wordpress.com)
- 2010 US divorce rate 0.36 percent, previous rates revised upward (familylaw.typepad.com)
- Stand for Marriage: Divorce and Children (anotherchristianblog.org)